Taming the “Green Monster”


S. Norman, Staff Writer

Jealousy is a common struggle for all of us.  You see someone with a nice car or phone, and you wish you had it.  Or, you overhear praise and feel the resentment that someone else has been recognized over you.  Don’t worry – you are not alone. Jealousy is something everyone experiences at one time or another.  It’s something people have had to struggle with since the beginning. All the way back to the Garden of Eden beginning.  The first family had one son kill the other out of jealousy. So assuming you haven’t committed fratricide, you’re doing fine.  But if the jealousy is affecting your schoolwork or relationships, you’d be better off finding a way to let go of it. Here are three practical ways to stop being jealous.


  1. Explore why you are jealous of the person/thing.  If you know why you are jealous, you are usually more able to get over it. Maybe you aren’t a big fan of your BFF’s boyfriend.  When you think about it, it may not be that he’s a jerk, or even that you want him for yourself, but you realize that he’s getting to spend more time with your friend than you do (you know who you are!)
  2. Learn the difference between comparison and competition.  Comparing yourself to someone often leads to jealousy. It is natural to compare, but don’t make it a competition of what you have or who you are. A person is not better than you just because their phone is better than yours.
  3. Practice gratitude and happiness. Think about all the good things you have in your life.   Think of how great your family and friends are and how lucky you are to be alive.  Do something for someone else and think less about your own drama.


In all, we are human and jealousy is mostly inevitable. At one point or another we all want something of someone else that we can’t have. But one thing we can choose to do is to respect other people and their property, and in so doing, respecting yourself.